Divorce Checklist for Fathers

The divorce checklist for fathers can help with your divorce proceedings. Our Charlotte family and divorce attorney at Remington & Dixon created this checklist to help men like you prepare for divorce.


Financial Records

Much of any divorce proceeding centers on finances. You will need to inventory what your assets are and what they are worth. Gather records of your assets and debts, including:

  • Marital home and other real property ownership documents
  • Mortgage statements
  • Bank accounts, checking and savings
  • Investment accounts, stock, cryptocurrency
  • Vehicle titles and car loans
  • Credit card statements
  • Personal loans
  • Tax records

Pay special attention to any records that may be harder to get once you are separated from your spouse.

Secure key personal items and documents, inventory

Secure important personal items and documents, including your passport and personal identification.

Make a list of personal property with a significant value.

Retirement accounts

  • Pension
  • 401K

Income records

  • Pay stubs
  • Seasonal, self-employed, variable income, bonuses, unreported income, payments in kind
  • Pay information for your spouse that may be harder to get later

Open your savings and checking accounts

You’ll need your savings and checking accounts that your spouse does not have access to.

Get your credit report

Looking at your credit report can help you identify any accounts you are not aware of.

Prenuptial, postnuptial agreements

If there was a prenuptial or postnuptial agreement, find a copy.

Gifts, inheritance

If you have received a substantial gift or an inheritance, identify it. Gather information relating to when it was given to you, its value and the fact that it was given as a gift or inheritance.

Change beneficiaries of life insurance, 401k and bank accounts

As soon as your divorce is finalized, change the beneficiaries of your financial accounts. If you can close an account, like a bank account, and open a new one, that’s the best thing to do. Unless you are court-ordered to name your spouse as your life insurance beneficiary, you can change that beneficiary, too. It’s also time to reassess how much life insurance you need.

Minor Children

Spend time with your children

If you have children, your time with your children is likely your top concern as you prepare for divorce.

The best thing that you can do now is continue to stay present in your children’s lives. If you think that your spouse may say that you are an uninvolved parent, try to document or diary your participation in your children’s lives.

Minor children information

For your minor children, gather their:

  • Full names
  • Dates of birth
  • Social Security numbers

Child providers and activities

Your children’s:

  • School
  • Teacher’s name
  • Daycare provider and cost
  • Counselors
  • List of extracurriculars
  • Doctor

Witnesses relating to the children

Your relationship with the children may be important to deciding custody. Gather the names of people who may be able to speak to your relationship with your child and the child’s interests.

Special needs of the child

If your child has special needs, gather what records you have relating to their special needs, treatment and care.

Conduct and Miscellaneous Information

Housing plan

Divorce involves one of the parties leaving the marital home. Think through what you expect to happen in terms of your living situation. Involve a lawyer in the process as soon as possible so that they can help protect your custody interests.

Spousal history

Gather any records relating to your spouse’s:

  • Criminal history
  • Abuse or neglect, delinquency court
  • Substance abuse
  • Infidelity

If you have a criminal or substance abuse history, gather records relating to:

  • Participation in treatment, counseling or parenting classes

You’re probably going to be blocked from your spouse’s social media soon if you aren’t already. If you can, look through their postings and see if there is anything relevant to the issues in divorce.

Any prior divorce filings

If you have previously started divorce or other court proceedings, you will need the case number and court name.

Change and secure passwords, fully shut down your computer and phone

Don’t leave your accounts where your spouse can access them.

Notes of possible issues in divorce

The more that you can anticipate the issues in your divorce, the better you can prepare. Do you believe that hidden marital assets may be an issue, for example? Are you concerned about child custody and your spouse’s willingness to co-parent? Think of things that concern you or that may be of particular importance. Share these things with your attorney.

The things on this list are things you may need for your case. At your consultation, you can get personalized advice.

Get Help with Your Divorce Checklist

Our family law firm in Charlotte has years of experience representing fathers like you. Whether you are preparing for divorce or you have started the process, we can give you specific advice and help you with your divorce checklist. Contact us today online or by phone to schedule a consultation to talk about your case.


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While we offer a free consultation on traffic matters, criminal matters, and most professional license defense cases, we charge a fee for family law consultations to personalize our consultations to your specific needs. To learn about our fee structure, please get in touch.

Where can I get legal advice?

We recommend meeting with an attorney. While there is free legal help available for North Carolina residents from pro bono resources for civil matters, and public defenders for criminal cases, the best way to access tailored advice is to hire a lawyer.

Can I hire you if I’m in another state?

This is done on a case by case basis if you are involved in a family law, criminal, or professional disciplinary matter that involves another jurisdiction.



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